And They Lived Happily Ever After

And They Lived Happily Ever After 

Let's play a game of guess what I'm trying to describe! Every young girl dream about them. People make a Pinterest board about them. They are the very focus of romantic comedies. And many families spend more on them than they do on cars. If you guessed a wedding, you totally nailed it! (Also, random side note if you made a Pinterest board of your future wedding as a teenager, I highly recommend you gander at it and see how the times have changed.) 

I've never been married before, so I feel like anything that I say about weddings and it feels to go through and plan one is like a moo point. (Hopefully, you have seen friends and get the moo reference.) However, I have talked to my sister who got married a few years ago about her wedding and how she felt about it. Here is what she had to say; 

Q: What emotions did you have on your wedding day?  

A: I was anxious because of how many people were attending the wedding. I put a lot of pressure on myself and didn’t want to disappoint my wedding guests with having something that did not look good, or people being bored. I was also nervous that people weren't even going to come and all my hard work and thought that I put onto the wedding was going to be for nothing. 

Q: What would you change about your wedding? 

A: I would make it a lot smaller so that my husband and I could spend more private time together. We didn’t get to spend 20 minutes alone with each other and I think it would’ve been nice for us to celebrate the day just the two of us for a moment.  

Q: What advice would you give future couples getting married? 

A: Don't stress about how your flowers look, is your cake just how you wanted it to be, are the center pieces tasteful and do people like how everything is decorated? Everything, all the unimportant things will come together, the important part is spending those private and extra moments with your spouse. The day is about you two and you want to make it special and think about the amazing commitment you just made to each other. In the end your memories of your wedding should be about the things that really matter like spending time with your spouse. 

Weddings are a huge deal; people watch movies that are entirely focused on them and think that the most important part of a wedding is the way it looks. When it's about you making this commit with someone you chose to be with through, thick and thin. Im not saying if you have a big wedding then your marriage is doomed, just that we need to reline our focus on the relationship between husband and wife after the wedding.  

The wedding is just one day and then you have the rest of your lives to spend together. So, what happens to the couple after the wedding? First off expect a lot of adjustments. Again, I've never been married so I'm not exactly the expert on what it's like to be married but I have seen what it's like to have to adjust your life because of a marriage. When my mom and stepdad got married a lot of things changed at our house. Us kids could no longer sleep in our mom's bed anymore; we had new rules and another parent to chastise us when we did something wrong. However, there were good adjustments too like having a father figure in our home, having someone there to take you on dirt bike rides and getting advice on making better decisions for yourself. 

 

My view on marriage has changed a lot during my life. As a kid I thought it was happy ever after and when you're married there should not be any arguments or else that means you picked the wrong person. Now I think that getting married is the bravest thing a person can do, because it takes faith and action in each other to make a marriage work. It's certainly not easy but nothing in this life ever is. Getting married is about finding the person you want to stand by you when things get hard it's so rewarding when you can look back on your life and realize that you’ve changed for the better because of your marriage.