Interesting... (insert meme from icarly, you know the one)
Ok, I don't want to be the girl whose whole personality is that her parents are divorce but I'm going to talk about it since this is a blog about families. Have you ever wondered "What effect does the structure of my family have on me?" I have, like a lot.
It's interesting how we can have grass is always greener on the other side complex even with family. This week in Family Relations class I learned that children who grow up in a family with a biological mom and a dad have the best outcome than any other family structure. That includes children born in gay/lesbian families. Crazy huh? I keep thinking if I should slighted or not with that information. And I don't because I feel I never lost anything important to my childhood.
"Could I have turned out differently if my parents never got a divorce?"
"Would it be worse or better?"
"Who would I be without the privilege of having two Christmases and birthdays?"
My parents got divorced, but that doesn't mean I must be a statistic that reflects that fact. Hopefully, this makes sense.
My mom gave me and my siblings the chance that she could. She taught us right from wrong, helped me with projects that I forgot to do all weekend and took me on so many hikes that I feel like it should be a hobby, but it really isn't. My dad is the best. He definitely needed some more time to grow up and learn how to be a dad, but he was trying his best in his own way too. Even though my parents are divorced they both gave me the best they could and most importantly I always knew they loved me.
I love my blended family, I would have never known my stepmom/dad, half-sister, half-brother, and stepbrother. I can't imagine my life without them. I don't feel like I've lost much or that I'm at a disadvantage because I feel I gained more than I lost.
I realize though that I'm pretty privileged. There are many families whose parents got divorced and it impacted them for the worse. It's not easy going to a different house every other weekend or apologizing if you bring up your dad during a conversation with your mom. For anyone in that position first off I'm sorry that sucks, but remember there is nothing we can do to fix the past; however, our future is entirely up to us so make your future a place that you want to live in.
There's nothing I can do about the past, but my future is changing all the time depending on my choices.
To answer my questions at the beginning of this blog yes, I would have turned out differently if my parents stayed together. I don't think I would have the ability to see both sides of problems or be a good listener. Obviously, there's probably more than that but it's all I can think of at the moment. Now Im going to shift to a different gear and go a little preacher mode on ya. As a Christian I believe that God has a plan and a purpose for everything that happens to us. I do not think I would have learned the same lessons that I did because my parents aren't together. My God is a loving God, he sent me people to help guide me through growing up in a blended family. It wasn't always easy, and there were many tears, but I know there is always a brighter side to everything.
Interesting... (insert meme from icarly, you know the one)
Ok, I don't want to be the girl whose whole personality is that her parents are divorce but I'm going to talk about it since this is a blog about families. Have you ever wondered "What effect does the structure of my family have on me?" I have, like a lot.
It's interesting how we can have grass is always greener on the other side complex even with family. This week in Family Relations class I learned that children who grow up in a family with a biological mom and a dad have the best outcome than any other family structure. That includes children born in gay/lesbian families. Crazy huh? I keep thinking if I should slighted or not with that information. And I don't because I feel I never lost anything important to my childhood.
"Could I have turned out differently if my parents never got a divorce?"
"Would it be worse or better?"
"Who would I be without the privilege of having two Christmases and birthdays?"
My parents got divorced, but that doesn't mean I must be a statistic that reflects that fact. Hopefully, this makes sense.
My mom gave me and my siblings the chance that she could. She taught us right from wrong, helped me with projects that I forgot to do all weekend and took me on so many hikes that I feel like it should be a hobby, but it really isn't. My dad is the best. He definitely needed some more time to grow up and learn how to be a dad, but he was trying his best in his own way too. Even though my parents are divorced they both gave me the best they could and most importantly I always knew they loved me.
I love my blended family, I would have never known my stepmom/dad, half-sister, half-brother, and stepbrother. I can't imagine my life without them. I don't feel like I've lost much or that I'm at a disadvantage because I feel I gained more than I lost.
I realize though that I'm pretty privileged. There are many families whose parents got divorced and it impacted them for the worse. It's not easy going to a different house every other weekend or apologizing if you bring up your dad during a conversation with your mom. For anyone in that position first off I'm sorry that sucks, but remember there is nothing we can do to fix the past; however, our future is entirely up to us so make your future a place that you want to live in.
There's nothing I can do about the past, but my future is changing all the time depending on my choices.
To answer my questions at the beginning of this blog yes, I would have turned out differently if my parents stayed together. I don't think I would have the ability to see both sides of problems or be a good listener. Obviously, there's probably more than that but it's all I can think of at the moment. Now Im going to shift to a different gear and go a little preacher mode on ya. As a Christian I believe that God has a plan and a purpose for everything that happens to us. I do not think I would have learned the same lessons that I did because my parents aren't together. My God is a loving God, he sent me people to help guide me through growing up in a blended family. It wasn't always easy, and there were many tears, but I know there is always a brighter side to everything.
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